"The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the green earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment and feeling truly alive" - Thich Nhat Hanh

Suicide is a very difficult issue for anyone who encounters it, whether it’s trying to deal with our own suicidal feelings or trying to cope with the loss of a loved one through suicide. Anyone touched by suicide struggles with a wide range of emotions associated with grief and loss, with the added pain of knowing that the person we love chose to take their own life. Whatever the circumstances this is a time when an experienced professional can really help.

At Karuna Counselling & Psychotherapy, Lynn is both trained and experienced in assisting both those who struggle with suicidal thoughts and also those affected by the suicide of a loved one, through her involvement with the Fingal Bereaved by Suicide Support Service.

Feeling Suicidal

Many people who suffer great pain in their lives find themselves struggling with thoughts of suicide as a way of relieving their pain. All too often the pain is not obvious to others and so can lead to isolation and despair. No one, be it family or friends, seem to understand, and even knowing that our family is affected by our pain can even add to our distress. Life can seem like a very dark place. The weight of carrying our feelings and trying to cope while feeling alone and mis-understood can make every day feel like an uphill struggle. Life can appear hopeless and death may seem like a way out of the overwhelming pain we are feeling.

Counselling can help. It can offer a safe and supportive environment with unconditional acceptance, where you can find a way of working through this difficult time, through the suffering to a place where life can be greatly enhanced and can be lived fully rather than just endured.

Support for people bereaved through suicide

For those who have lost a loved one to suicide, they are often left in shock not only at the loss itself but also the nature of it. There may be unanswered questions, feelings of guilt as the family re-live their last encounter with the person over and over again in the hope of finding answers. This pain may also be compounded by others who have never been touched by an experience like this and do not understand.

Counselling can provide an opportunity to explore these difficult feelings and questions in a way that is not possible with others. Sometimes it can be difficult to express our deepest emotions to those closest to us and counselling can provide that safe space for you to express how suicide has affected you, to acknowledge that and find ways of coping with life after that experience.

Self Harm

Self harm can mean different things to different people and can range from drinking too much or taking drugs, to cutting ourselves in order to feel some relief from our pain. It is a way of coping that can bring temporary relief but is usually followed by feelings of guilt, shame, regret and sadness, and yet our problems still remain with us. Counselling can help you find new, more positive ways of coping with life and the problems we face.